kami guru malaysia~~

i was browsing the youtube website when i came across this..

enjoy~~

Cures for Love: Which One?

*referring to the previous entry..

Wendy Cope said that there are two cures for love.. I kinda believe her actually.. However, there are a few questions worth thinking about..

• Which one do you think is easier to be done?
• Which one do you think has less risk?
• Which one do you think is much more painful than the other?
• Which one do you think will make you happy?

Come to think of it.. I dont think one way is easier than the other.. Or that the one way that we picked will not be hurting us anymore and we live happily.. Both ways have its own pros and cons.. I dont know what they are until I myself came to a junction of life and i need to decide which one of the two is best for me..

"I came to know him about a year ago.. About a few months of knowing him, he told me he has a gf.. I dont mind.. I thought that i really want to be friends with him.. And so i have to make the big decision: Wendy Cope's Cure No 1 or Cure No 2..

Without thinking much, I opted for Cure No 2.. Yes, it was fun at the beginning.. I was happy.. I thought that by being friends, he will soon realise how cool and laid-back I am that he will come running back to me.. However, being happy and fun was only temporary.. The happiness and fun did not last long.. I felt hurt.. I felt like being stabbed by a big sharp knife each and everytime he mentioned about her.. I felt torn when he did things that no one would accept.. But, I was in denial.. I keep on telling myself that it was OK.. And it's gonna be OK.. I told myself that this will end sooner or later.. He wont do it again.. And i kept denying myself.. Even my mom could not wake me up from the denial.. Sorry Maa..

About 10 weeks ago, I came to my senses..I became tired of living my life in denial.. Friends woke me up from my dream.. I snapped back to reality.. I abandoned Cure No 2, looked for strength and courage and went after Cure No 1.. It was not easy at the beginning.. I was tempted to dial his number and talked like we used to.. But, I have to be strong.. I cant live in denial again.. After 10 weeks of not-calling-him-during-the-weekends, I became much stronger.. I realised that I am not at loss of anything, not even him and not even one thing.. I accept that this is what life has got to offer and I accept the fact that this is what God has arranged for me and this is what is best for me.."

I am now happy that i left Cure No 2 and went after Cure No 1.. But I am not saying that Cure No 1 is way better than the other.. However, in my case, it is better that the other.. Only after I went through both cures for love.. ;-)


*Dear friends (you know who you are),
Thanks for bringing me back to reality and giving me the courage and strength that I needed very much to go through this period of life..Thanks..I heart you..

need cure?

Two Cures for Love:

1. Don't see him. Don't phone or write a letter.
2. The easy way: get to know him better.

Wendy Cope

~sye sahur tadi..~

Kellogg's Cornflakes

+

Choco Hoops

+

Whole Milk

+

Strawberries

p/s: Baru sye paham kenapa iklan oat ngan cornflake suke bubuh strawberry skali..sedap rupenyer..~~

.:choc chip cookies chep wan's:.

BAHAN
1 CAWAN MENTEGA TANPA GARAM
1 SUDU ESEN VANILLA
1 CAWAN GULA HALUS
1/2 CAWAN GULA GULA PERANG GELAP
1 BIJI TELUR
1/3 CAWAN KOKO TAWAR SERBUK
2 SUDU BASAR SUSU SEGAR
1 3/4 CAWAN TEPUNG GANDUM SERBAGUNA
1/4 SUDU TEH SODA PENAIK
1 CAWAN KACANG PECAN ATAU WALNUT DICINCANG
70 GRAM KURMA DICINCANG
1 CAWAN CIP COKLAT SEPARUH MANIS

CARAPUKUL
Mentega dan gula dipukul hingga gebu.
Kemudian, Sambil kacau perlahan masukkan telur, esen, koko, susu, tepung, penaik.
Last sekali masukkan kacang, kurma and choc chip.



-->Ni resipi mak cik sye yg bagi..Sye pn tak try lg..Tp..biskut nie sumer orang nyer fav choc chip cookies biler balik kg..

.:tibanya ramadhan:.

All of us, the muslims in Plymouth, will start fasting tomoro (it's already 1 Ramadhan at the moment of typing)..

In conjunction with ketibaan Ramadhan, i would like to wish each and everyone of u,

'Selamat Berpuasa'

'Selamat Menyambut Ketibaan Ramadhan'

'Semoga Ramadhan tahun ini lebih baik dari yang lepas2'

I would also like to apologise for any wrongdoing in the past. Minta maaf, semua.

Halalkan segala makan minum saya ye.

..mimpi post-tag..

as we all know, i'm one of nisa's tag victim..and so i did the ciri-ciri lelaki idaman..which has actually made me feel that i wanna get married rite away to my lelaki idaman..but.. what happened last nite was that i dreamt of some ular..people say that if u dream of kena patuk ular, then ader orang nak masuk meminang..but all the ular in my dream did not patuk me or whatsoever..they stayed in a plastic bag which i then cover the plastic bag with a tudung periuk..

so the question is, apekah ader orang nak masuk meminang? (because i dreamt of ular)..ataupun it was just a normal dream? (since the ular did not patuk me at all)..

tp, cam klaka jugak klu ader orang nk masuk minang..hahahahaha..

*rolling on the floor laughing*

kah kah kah kah kah kah~~~~~~

~lelaki idaman~

yer cik nisa..
i tulis ni as a kesinambungan to ur entry in ur blog...


~Lelaki Idaman Saya~

1. solat 5 waktu..sye x kesah sgt psl solat sunat tuh..yg WAJIB tu penting..tp..klu diye wat solat sunat lagilah extra point~~

2. diye rajin ajak sye puasa sunat~~

3. diye rajin gak ajak solat jemaah..~

4. seharusnyer juga diyer klaka..sense of humour is vital!!

5. diye menerima sye seadanya..oohhhhhh~~

6. dr segi fizikalnyer..tak nak ler kurus sgt...dan juge tak nak la gemok..nak yang ala2~ gendut jerrr..

7. he's good at what he's at..~~

8. main sports!!! utk mengisi masa lapang...

9. relaks~ sabor~ caring..

10. yang mahukan anak sebagai penyeri kluarge...~~ahaks!!

.:something to think about:.

this is something that i found on a website and it reflects where i stand rite now..

i extremely wanna share this with the readers of my blog..

hoping that we gain something from it..

;D

JUST FRIENDS ?

By Susan Nikaido

If my sources are correct, the following scenario is played out frequently among the world of singles. It happens on both sides of the gender line, but allow me to talk about it from my own female perspective. A man meets a woman and begins to show interest in her. He asks her to spend time with him on a regular basis: hiking, biking, watching video. He calls her at least once a week just to talk. He begins telling her about the deeper things in his heart and invites her to share at this level as well. He sends her mushy "friendship" cards and

tells her that she means a great deal to him. He may become a little affectionate:
the hugs begin to linger.

The relationship has been defined as friendship, if it has been defined at all. But after all this special attention,the woman is definitely feeling more. So she asks the guy what's going on. To her surprise, he does a quick about-face. He insists they are just friends. After that, he avoids her, leaving her hurt and bewildered. She feels rejected - she has lost not only a romantic interest (she thought) but worse, a close and trusted friend. And she feels stupid.

Did she really misread all those signals?

After I experienced this as a single woman, I asked a friend my friend "Joel" to help me understand why guys do this.

After I told him my woeful tale, he said, "I did that to somebody once."

"What? Why would you ever do such a thing?" I asked.

"We were getting too close, and it scared me," he said.

This helped me understand why the "just friends" syndrome is so widespread. A guy wants to get to know a girl, but without the pressure of dating. So he spends a lot of time with her, treating her in many ways like a girlfriend but defining the relationship as friends. This way, if it begins to look like there's no future in the relationship, or he's not ready to "get serious," he can back away with no messy break up.

It sounds like a nice arrangement - for the guy. But that approach can be a problem for the woman. If a man tells a woman he just wants to "be friends" but he treats her as if it's more than friendship, she will believe his behaviour instead of his words. It sets her up for a big disappointment. Or if he invokes the "just friends" mantra after being asked about the nature of the relationship, but then promptly begins to distance himself from the friendship, again, his actions do not match his words.

He may think he's sparing her feelings by avoiding a break up. But by defining the relationship as a friendship, he hurts her even more deeply when he disappears. A dating relationship comes with certain risks. But she expects a friendship - especially such a close one - to continue. Think about it this way:

A broken dating relationship says only, "I don't want to marry you";

a broken friendship says to her, "I don't want/value you on any level."

Taking a woman down this path violates two principles.
First, it's dishonest.

Someone once said that it was the way of the World -not of a godly man - to say "yes, yes" and "no, no" in the same breath.

A man of integrity will call a relationship what it is.

Second, it is not kind or loving.

The "just friends" approach may be safer for the guy, but it is harmful to the woman. In effect, he is asking her for the rewards of a dating relationship

- companionship, emotional intimacy, even affection -

without the responsibility. He is playing with her heart, and her heart will probably get broken. But what if a guy does only want to be friends - or wants to develop a friendship before he decides to date? It's pretty simpleHe just treats the woman like all his other friends. He doesn't spend more time with her or call her more often than he does his other friends. He usually invites other people along when he get together with her. He doesn't pick up the tab when just the two of them go out. He avoids compliments that might communicate she is "special" to him.

He lets her know he spends time with other women.

He's extremely careful about showing any physical affection - even playful shoves or hugs. If, after getting to know her from a safe emotional distance, he wants a deeper relationship, he tells her that he wants to date her. What if you are not thinking about is more than friendship, but she asks about your intentions? Tell her you appreciate her friendship, but be honest about where you are. Above all, though it may be awkward for a while, continue to be her friend.

Years ago, I began to be attracted to a male friend. Though I hadn't really been getting any signals that he wasinterested in me, I knew it would help settle my emotions to hear it from him. I asked. He affirmed me as a person but told me gently - but clearly - that he thought of me only as a friend and then he did a wonderful thing. He kept being my friend. Though it hurt a little to learn I wasn't attractive to him in that way, it helped to know he still valued me and wanted me around. This was nearly 15 years ago, and though we have both moved to different states and married, we are friends to this day.

Women can be great friends.

But guys, unless you are ready for a dating relationship, please be careful to treat us

"as sisters, with absolute purity",
not as girlfriends, nor as something in between.

..giants invasion..

on the 16th of september 2006,

a bunch of beautiful and happy giants have invaded babbacombe model village, torquay..

and not even one living thing was hurt during the invasion..

the beautiful and happy teacher-going-to-be-giants even took some nice pictures of themselves..

of torquay n teluk batik..

dari kiri: leleng, wani, alin, ina, ejat

tiada dlm gambar: tiqah-->jurukamera..

yesterday, we (ejat, leleng, tiqah, ina, wani n myself) went to torquay..it was wonderful..it's been months since i last wiggled my toes in the salty sea water..of course, it was exciting and the scenery was beautiful..when i was walking by the road..it even felt like i was walking in Lumut..each one of us kept on saying.. wahhh..bestnyer..lama dah tak mandi laut.. except for ejat who refused to get her feet into the water because..mak ejat kater jangan main air..ni tempat orang..hehe..and i kept mentioned how refreshing it feels in the water and how i miss teluk batik..

talking about teluk batik..i cant help but being disappointed with the gathering of mat rempit in teluk batik a few weeks ago by putera umno..i dont mind the gathering..i know that they did help some of the villagers..but what made me angry and kecewa is the fact that the mat rempit misbehaved in someone's peaceful town and my fav place to hang out in Lumut..some of them were caught drunk and even slept together(women and men) in a hotel..and then there was another story about how they berkubang in the kolam masjid..hello??!!! cant u even think??!! tu masjid laa..and the water in the kolam is used untuk bersuci..why must u do that??!!! u have the whole teluk batik..berkubang la kat teluk batik tu!! BUDUS!!

i believe, what the mat rempit have done has given teluk batik a bad impression..i think whenever i mention teluk batik to someone who hasnt been there, he or she will associate teluk batik with the gathering of mat rempit and their attitude.. people will not associate teluk batik with its nice beach or the bukit yang tinggi on the way to teluk batik tu..that's sad..

sedey kan nisa, tiqah..orang wat fav place kiter jadik camtu..

~torquay~

selasa bersama steve ansell..

merujuk kepada previous post:

yer!!
mmg cuti nk habis dah..
tp kenapa nex week kelas ader hr selasa jer..
lps tu hr rabu ader meeting ngan english language nyer student..
itu jer..
macam cuti lagi jer..



~~alhamdulillah...yeay!!~~

cuti? habis dah~~

hr nie 15 september..
lg 3 hr..
tiba lah 18 september..
cuti pon habis..
maka kenalah bangun awal utk ke kelas..
chaiyyookkkk!!
bhhassyyaaa!!
aja~aja~

..sausage n wedges..

while waiting for the sausages and wedges in the oven..

WHAT DO YOU RESPOND WHEN PEOPLETELL/ASK YOU:

WHY ARE YOU ALWAYS LIKE THAT?

A: suke ati la..abes tu apsal ko slalu cam tu?

I JUST REALIZED NOW THAT I LOVE YOU

A: waktu aku nk kat ko, ko tanak..skunk ko sebok nk plak..--> emo lak..hehhe..

LEAVE HIM//HER ALREADY. YOULL BE MUCHMORE HAPPY WITH ME

A: orang cakap tanak tu tanak laa...

COME ON. SMILE. YOURE CUTE WHEN YOUDO THAT

A: hik hik hik..mekaseyy..

PLEASE DO MY MATH HOMEWORK TOO

A: i x reti math2 nie...

WHO DO YOU HAVE A CRUSH ON? ME, RIGHT?

A: aper u nie? x reti2 lg ker?

I AM SO BLESSED TO HAVE SOMEONE LIKEYOU

A: i know!!!!

WHY DOES MONDAY COME BEFORETUESDAY?

A: why does tuesday comes before wednesday?

I HAVE TWO TICKETS TO THE LINKIN PARKCONCERT. WANNA COME WITH ME?

A: i wanna heal..i wanna feel..like im close tosomething real...--> truskan menyanyi lagu linkinpark..

YOU ARE ONE OF THE MOST SPECIALPEOPLE IN MY LIFE. DID YOU KNOW THAT?

A: ohh skunk ko kater aku spesel laaa...dulu kopandang aku seblah mate jer...-->emo lagi..

I THINK IM FALLING FOR YOU
A: let us fall together...ewwwahhhh...

I CANT SMILE WITHOUT YOU

A: eleh..sat lg nmpk pompuan lain reti la ko senyum kan..

THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING, BUT YOU JUSTARENT HIM//HER

A: of course la kan.. i am me..klu tak nk tu dahla..bley blah..

NOTHING

A: aper nothing2???!!

WHATS YOUR MOBILE NUMBER?

A: i'll give u mine if u give me urs..wakakakakka...

CAN I HAVE THIS DANCE

A: yer kot..tp i tak reti laaa..

MAY I COURT YOU

A: klu nk ngorat..ngorat jer la..ni tanyer2 lak..awkpemalu ker?

DO YOU STILL LOVE HIM//HER TIL NOW

A: ntah..sye pon tak tau...

YOU WERE EVERYTHING, EVERYTHING IWANTED

A: skunk ni ko everything2 ngan aku la kan..dulutu..aku nothing la kan..

WHEN WILL I GET YOUR SWEET YES

A: when the time comes...

why?

why do all my answers are emo-ish?

~sigh~

sye rindu~~

~atok~

~nenek~

td sye call mama..

mama kater atok ngan nenek ader kat KL kat umah pak cu..

sye rse mcm nk ckp ngan atok ngan nenek..

jadinyer..

sayer pon tepon umah pak cu..

nenek kate..

nenek datang KL bawak buah..

ader buah pulasan..

ader buah langsat..

nenek kater lagi..

makan ramai2..

makan ramai2 mmg best..

ader roti..ader buah...

nenek kater lagi..

tak leh makan banyak..

nnt gemok...

tak mau gemok macam alin...

lepas tu cakap ngan atok pulak..

atok kater..

atok tgh rehat2 kat rumah pak cu..

makan2..

atok tanyer...

tengah buat aper?

klu dah cuti knape x balik?

atok pesan..

klu cuti 3 bulan..balik la malaysia..

pastu atok pesan lagi..

jangan makan banyak sangat...

biar kurus sket...

lepas tu cakap ngan nenek balik..

cerite kat nenek hr tu masak nasi beriyani..

nenek puji..

iyer..pandainyer diyer masak..

nenek tanyer..

masak utk brape orang?

nenek puji lagi..

pandainyer diyer masak utk ramai2..

lepas tu cakap ngan pak cu pulak..

pak cu ckp..

td sumer orang ader..

achik norli pon ader jugak..

pak cu ckp lagi.

atok bawak ikan fresh ngan buah...

ikan merah...

ikan tu masak kari..

lepas tu skarang ni sye rse rindu kat umah..

sye rse homesick..~~

sye rindu kat atok ngan nenek sye..

sye rindu lawak atok sye..

sye rindu nk main teka teki ngan atok ngan nenek..

sye rindukan gelak ketawa mereka..

sye rindu nk buat atok ngan nenek gelak...

the first one...

hapily dedicating the first entry to my frenz all over the world..

songs are always composed in appreciation of the people you have around you..but never did i realise that rock songs also talk about friendship..i only found out about it when i was surfing the net looking for quotations on friendship that i encountered a site which posted excerpts of lyrics on friendship..i guess friendship is so universal that it can be shared and appreciated in any genre of music..and im gonna share the lyrical friendship quotations with u...

"When I'm with you I feel like I could die and that would be alright, alright."

- Third Eye Blind

"I'll lean on you and you lean on me and we'll be okay."

- Dave Matthews Band

"Best friends just won't leave your side"

-Blink182

"Hey my friend, I see your eyes are troubled, care to share your time with me?"

- Dave Matthews Band

"We've gone our own ways and I know its for the best, but sometimes I wonder will I ever have a friend like you again?"

-Blink 182

"See you and me have a better time than most can dream of,

better than the best, so we can pull on through,

whatever tears at us, whatever holds us down,

and if nothing can be done,

we'll make the best of what's around."

-Dave Matthews Band

"Every now and then we find a special friend,

who never lets us down, who understands it all,

reaches out each time you fall,

you're the best friend that I've found."

-Jordan Hill - "Remember Me This Way"

"Even if we never talk again after tonight,

please remember that I am forever changed by who you are and what you meant to me"

-Chasing Amy

"Here's to the nights we felt alive

Here's to the tears you knew you'd cry

Here's to goodbye

Tomorrow's gonna come too soon"

- Eve 6

"And the days went by like paper in the wind.

Everything changed, then changed again.

It's hard to find a friend. It's hard to find a friend."

- Tom Petty

dear friends,

u r the treasure that ive found..

and im not going to let u go..

thanks for being there when i needed u the most..

love u guys..